"Why Are You The Way That You Are?" - Michael Scott

I was not a fan of The Office when it first started. I didn't give it a second thought. However, 5 years ago, a guy I was seeing told me to give it a try... so I did. To say I speak in fluent quotes from this show is an understatement. Mix that with my ability to quote F*R*I*E*N*D*S and well... you're in for a treat. 

This isn't a discussion about how I have the ability to quote classic NBC TV shows. Sorry.. we can talk about that another post 😊

I had a conversation with one of my closest friends a few weeks back about how I feel left out and stuck while everyone is off living their lives with their person. She told me that she understands where I am coming from, but that I am living my life on my terms, and am a part of things a lot of people don't understand and it reignited the desire I've had to share WHY I am the way that I am. 

For as long as I can remember, I have wanted to be a part of a large group of incredible people. I wanted to feel like I belonged, that I was appreciated for all (or most) of my quirks, that I was as important to a group of people as they were to me. If I'm being honest, I am still looking for that solid group of people, but I am certainly a step closer! 

I am one of the only single biddies in my group of close friends. Everyone's either in a relationship, engaged, married, or married with kids - so I don't get to see them as much as I would like. I don't get to do some of the things they do, because I don't have someone else to come along with me, and while it's been a hard pill to swallow - IT'S OKAY (this is still a work in progress, as feeling left out is a real terrible feeling and it's not the easiest to just get over).

• Why did you join this particular MLM?
• It's a no brainer. The product is something that most every person uses daily, if not every other day. The results were much easier to see, and far faster than the other. It's an entirely different market and this company is currently the fastest growing hair care company - so yeah, that would be silly to pass up. I saw the sisterhood that the team was a part of, and craved so badly to be apart of something where you're included because you want success and community - regardless of your relationship status, financial status, and your appearance. This group of incredible ladies has been such a blessing, and I can't imagine my day to day without them. The crazy part about all of those feelings - is that I have never met any of my immediate team in the real world. It's been through social media. I have met a few other cross line ladies in the real world, and they're amazing! 

"Why are you putting yourself into situations where you aren't going to succeed? If you didn't have success before, why are you going to try again?" - This 2 part question was said to me back in February, and at first I was angry. Then I took a step back, looked at where the question was coming from, and decided to stand firm in my decision. Being surrounded by misery 24/7 isn't the ideal way to live - but for some people it's where they are the most comfortable, so they don't change their mindset or circumstances. 

• Why did I join another direct sales company after being unable to grow a team for myself in my previous one?
• I am the type of girl who loves (thrives on, actually) a good challenge. In the previous MLM company I was involved with, I only saw minor success when I was at my absolute smallest weight. I let myself go (life happens, people) and all of a sudden, no one wanted to hear about how these products saved my life from being morbidly obese. I didn't feel supported by those around me. The conversations never started with "how are you" or "what's new" .. it was always "how much weight have you lost" ... and let me tell you - that's a hard conversation to have when you've got some serious personal life issues. I took a chance on a new MLM company because I saw that 1) results were obtained by changing products in my daily routine - not adding anything extra, 2) the incredible group of leaders were lifting EVERYONE up, not just those who were seeing crazy success, and 3) I wanted more from my life.

I hold myself to a very high standard. I am often mocked for how I live my life, and while I respect everyone's opinions, those opinions aren't going to pay my bills or influence my choices. Everyone is so focused on what others are doing and what their flaws are, rather than taking the scary leap and looking and what they need to improve upon themselves. Everyone's looking for comparison and competition. Why? So you can say you're better than someone? Take a step back and look at the big picture - we're all here on this earth for a short amount of time. If someone wants to join a direct sales company, who cares? If their posts bother you, scroll past or unfriend them. If someone wants to say they're interested in events on Facebook, so what? Is it hurting you? No. There's no need for constant scrutiny. 

The moral of the story here people - do whatever you have to in order to be happy. Remove yourself from friendships/relationships that aren't allowing you to grow. There's no need to stay somewhere you're not happy. If things aren't lining up in your life - get the eff over yourself and CHANGE what's not bringing you any sort of fulfillment. There's no need to sit and whine all over social media for attention. Get off the screen and into real life. Social media is not meant to be your diary. You're adults - celebrate victories and avoid drama. Simple. 

Joining the company I did is a choice I will never regret - and if there are questions, I am happy to answer them. I am not going to be that person who barfs their product over social media, nor am I going to be the cold messaging type. Respect is a two way street, always.