Quietly Aligned

 Five years ago, I needed reassurance more than I realized.

I second-guessed myself.

I over-explained.

I tried to make sure everyone was comfortable — even if I wasn’t.

That showed up in my friendships, too.

I needed validation.

Needed to know I was included.

Needed to feel chosen.

Now? I don’t need constant affirmation.

I just need to know I’m respected.

That I’m not being discussed in rooms I’m not in.

That the loyalty is mutual.

Five years ago, I confused chaos with passion.

Busyness with importance.

Attention with connection.

What feels different now is quieter.

I trust myself more.

I don’t rush decisions just to ease tension.

I don’t panic when things get uncertain.

Five years ago, I wanted to be liked.

Now I want to be aligned.

I don’t need every room to approve of me.

I don’t need every relationship to stay.

I don’t need to prove that I’m strong.

I just need to be steady.

I’ve stopped chasing intensity.

I choose peace — even when it’s less impressive.

And that shift changed everything.