“When in doubt, choose change.” – Lily Leung

Here in New England (and throughout MOST of the country) we experience all 4 seasons. As of late, they tend to overlap, but in essence, we experience 4 seasons: Spring, Summer, Fall, Winter. In life, you experience seasons as well. Are they as clearly defined as the 4 we see every year? No.

Life is a constant change in seasons. New experiences, new friends, old traditions, etc. – all part of the seasons in your life. As someone who has recently gone through quite a season of change, I can tell you that it’s not even remotely easy. On the outside, sure, I look excited for a new adventure. I tell everyone how I am SO excited about a new job, or a new place to live, a new friend, or a new car… internally I am flipping the eff out.

As someone with a very high anxiety level, new is scary. New is not my routine, so how am I going to function in it? How am I going to get myself acclimated accordingly and not look like a COMPLETE idiot? Anxiety is a topic I will cover in a post down the road – but to those suffering, you are not alone. It’s scary living with this, but know that you are always welcome to reach out and talk if you ever need me – it’s what I want to build this community for – a safe, supportive environment.

When things change, there will be people that disappear from your life. Whether they supported you in the beginning then disappeared, said they supported you then talked about it behind your back, or just disappeared all together once news broke that something in your world was changing – IT’S OKAY. Everyone is at different seasons in their lives – we all adjust based on what’s happening in our own worlds. Which is why, when it comes down to it, we need to respect one another REGARDLESS of outlooks, life changes, etc. People are fighting battles you don’t know about.

As I mentioned before, I started a new job this week. I left a role I had been comfortable in for 5 years, and started a brand new position totally out of my comfort zone. I am so unbelievably excited about this new chapter (for real – my anxiety has subsided 1000% since Sunday night), but am also so unbelievably sad about the people I’ve lost along the way. Some people in this society are not happy unless they are miserable/unhappy. Some people in my circle are not happy unless they are miserable/unhappy – and as someone who is trying to be more positive, and more open to whatever God/the Universe have to throw my way I have to be okay with letting them go from my world. It’s hard! It’s scary! But it’s something that I have to do as part of this new season I am in.

Change is SO frightening. It’s something that needs to happen in order to grow in this crazy thing we call life. The only way we can truly change – is to accept life’s changes and use them as stepping stones on your journey. When you find yourself stagnant, miserable, and questioning why you are still doing something –ask yourself what you need to change in order to bring yourself happiness. Let go of the toxic, negative people in your life, BUT ALSO the toxic, negative voice you talk to yourself in.

This post’s challenge: truly listen to what you sound like when you talk about things in your life. Are you happy? Does it truly bring you joy? If not – I challenge you to find what WILL make you happy, and find out what you need to do in order to pursue it.  

Enjoy the season you’re in and grow from every experience